* Options for OTC and # requests

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Here's the trick:

1. You always WISH you could contact them OTC, but you can't for X reasons

2. Quickly turn it around into an assumption of sale or a change of subject.

Reviewing many of the posts on SW regarding this manner, most girls seem to have a pretty clear understanding of part 1. Obviously, if you give them any inclination that you could see them out of the club if you wanted to, but you just don't, it breaks the fantasy - more like obliterates the fantasy. No man wants to be rejected.... but if your being honest.... thats exactly what your doing. That's why to do your job as effectively as possible, honesty is not the best policy.

Men want to be wanted by you... so think about it, what would you say to a guy that you honestly found attractive, but you don't have the time for outside of work (where you need to make money btw!)? First of all you would be disappointed that your "dream" guy just asked you for your number or to see you OTC, but you just can't. You would be hopeful that he really liked you and that he'll spend money on you so that he can be around you. Also, you'd have to have a good enough reason to turn down your dream guy because you had to work. After all, if you really liked him you would make room for him in your life... unless you have a REAL good excuse.

One excuse that any dancer could get away with is the "school" excuse. You pay for your own school and you go to school full time so you have A LOT of homework! And, when your not doing homework you need to be making as much money as possible to support yourself. It's easy to get away with because any man that would try to get in between you and an education would be obviously selfish.

There is one excuse that could be the mother of all excuses - literally :). The "I have a kid" excuse. It covers all the bases... you need money to support your child and when your not at work your spending time with your beautiful little one. You don't take calls because you don't want to be spending time on the phone when your watching your child - you give him/her your undivided attention. Also, playing up the single mom role gives the man the opportunity to step up as a "hero".

You can also try the "in debt" excuse... in which stripping is like one of three other jobs that you have to keep to get your ass out of debt. The key to this excuse is having jobs where they can't contact you or come and see you like nannying or working at a warehouse... otherwise you could potentially "see them out of the club"... and why would they spend money on you ITC if they can see you OTC?

You want situations that can not only justify your inability to send time with people you meet OTC, but also justify their spending money on you ITC ( -the more it makes them feel like a "hero" to spend money on you the better- ).

Remember: one of the main aspects that is wicked important is making them know that you WISH you could spend time with them. It's sooooo important to stroke their egos. Each man has particular things about his ego that need to be stroked, but the one thing all men have in common is that they want to be wanted. They want to feel like they are sexually attractive by women who are sexually attractive. The degree to which you show your interest in a guy is topic for a whole other blog, but for now just know that if you don't seem interested in him then you aren't interested in making the sale!

The next step is to quickly assume the sale once you have deflected the OTC approach. It's called controlling their attention. They were focused on getting to contact you out of the club, but what you want them to focus on now is getting excited about spending time with you ITC.

It helps to not have made a big deal about why you can't see them OTC first of all. If you spend too much time and energy on explaining yourself then you won't be able to divert their attention away very easily because YOU put so much attention into it. The customer will pay attention to whatever you are paying attention to - and what you REALLY want to pay attention to is how much fun he is going to have with you.

First just say that your busy or that you can't (while implying that you wish you could but that it's not super important through your tone) If he continues to ask then quickly and nonchalantly make your excuse as to why you can't see him and then assume the sale - or change the subject. Here's an example for a guy you've recently met

You: Oh your soooo cute... lets go for a dance
Him: You know... what I'd really like is to see you outside of here sometime...
You: (flippantly) Oh but I'm so busy when I'm not working - (seductively) and we can have soooo much fun right here (pulling him away to the PRs) let's go have some fun *deviant smile*
Him: Oh come on... if you really liked me you'd just give me your number!
You: (getting slightly serious / pouty - bring out your excuse now) OK look... It's just that I work really hard going to school - I'm a full time student and I pay for everything myself (warming up again) and I really like you, I really want to spend time with you (getting even more seductive and saying close to his ear) Come on baby come play with me *sexy smile*(start leading him back to the rooms)
(* at this point keep slamming him with sexy to get him to forget about OTC and get him enjoying what's ITC)

If he keeps on being insistent you can pull out the "but I just met you" tactic. The best way to pull this off is to insinuate that even though you like him, he's a little strange for asking you to see him OTC when you've just met. It's very logical that if you are as busy as you say you are it's practically impossible for you to make room in your life for someone you barely know. If he's been a regular for a while just say that you still feel like you need to get to know him a little bit better and that you hope he can respect that.

If he keeps on insisting after that you can bust out the "It's really unbecoming to beg" tactic. But, if he keeps on insisting after that you can pretty much write this one off as a lost cause. Make sure he knows that you can't deal with his begging any longer because you need to feel like you are being respected. And when you say "no" that means "no" - you wish you could but you just can't and that he needs to respect that. Any guy who pushes farther than that is being disrespectful and even though it seems harmless, he is basicly shitting on your words - he's telling you that your thoughts and needs mean nothing to him - which I personally see as emotional abuse.

Every guy that walks into the SC wants to get to get to see the girls he likes OTC. Somewhere deep inside of him - even though he may rationally realize that it is impossible - wants to have sex with you. It will ALWAYS be a part of your job to effectively dismiss the OTC attempts while maintaining your image as a fantasy girl. The best way to do it is to employ as many of the above tactics as possible. Good luck :D

* Expanding Customer Base: Sexuality vs. Innocence

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When it all boils down to it we make money by giving men what they want and men go to strip clubs for one of three reasons:

1. For erotic entertainment
2. For feminine acceptance
3. For a combination of the first two

Usually they are there for number 3.

As with any two extremes there are infinite shades of gray between them, fluctuating back and forth at any given moment, for nothing in this universe is static. You see this in customers to an extreme: they walk in the door looking for one thing and within 20 minutes they are looking for another! The guy who just wants some female company will walk in and sit down and see a beautiful girl that turns him on and the next thing you know all he wants is to see her pussy - and he will pay handsomely for it! .... And vice versa.

A lot of girls have a shtick that they limit themselves to. Some girls play the seductress all the way and leave innocence at the door. The most common case, however is the girl that doesn't know how to tap into her sexuality. Either way, they are denying one side of the continuum which highly limits their earning potential.

Both of the girls above are like restaurants that serve just cheeseburgers but no French fries (or really really crappy fries). It's great if a guy likes cheeseburgers... but what about the guy that just likes fries... or the one that wants fries with his burger??? Chances are they will go to the competition that DOES offer both.

It's come to my attention that girls make up excuses to justify their lack of diversity which is probably one of the most limiting traps you can get yourself into.

Girls tend to judge girls that are able to perform on the opposite end of the continuum. The girls that are "talkers" look at the girls that are "sexual enticers" and say that they are slutty and the girls that are "sexual enticers" will secretly laugh at the innocence of the "talkers". One will say that the other way is no way of making money... but what they are really doing is turning what should be seen in shades of gray into black and white.

Some girls say that they "can't" perform at the other end of the continuum, that it's not natural for them. Now, this may be true at any given moment in time, but that attitude is negative and limiting in it's own right. You can learn to be more sexual and you can learn to be more talkative. YOU CAN. Learning each of those skills is a blog unto itself though, but just cut the apathy for now. Start to think of ways on your own that you could potentially learn what does not come naturally. Some things DO come naturally to some people, but if everybody just did what came naturally we would still be stuck in the stone age. Some things require effort, but when it comes o he difference you will see in the range of customers that you can acquire, you will understand why it is worth it.

I've heard people say that one type of customer has more money than the other, but that is plain ignorance. The reason they say this is because they've had more success with a guy that is looking for one thing more than another. Every guy has the potential to spend an equal amount of money as long as you know how to get it off of him! You can potentially get him to spend even more if you are able to expand his interests in you. Like let's say that he comes in to see pussy... you can play that up for him, and then persuade him to sit down and talk for a bit - therefore extending the amount of time and money he spends on you. If he comes in to talk you can do that for a bit and then get him worked up and get him to tip you for some erotic entertainment. This all takes a bit of skills, which i will outline in another blog, but for now just know that the more a customer can do with you, the more money you can get him to spend by extending the amount of time he spends with you.

There is a reason that Wal-Mart, Mc Donalds, and other large corporations have made soooo much money - it's because they are able to market to the largest customer base possible for their product while maintaining a unique identity. I insist that you can do this as a stripper and this will not be the last blog that talks about this principle, for this is one of the best things you can do for your business: Expand your customer base - Don't limit yourself to a niche market.