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It's called "creating triangles" and it works on the principle that we are attracted to those who are attractive to others.
There are a lot of us out there that will pick one guy from a group to hustle and then move on, maybe very politely asking if others in the group would like a dance, but trying not to cause conflict within their circle. I'm here to tell you, however, that by doing this you are merely scratching the surface of the potential money you could stand to make off those men!
We as humans are instinctively programmed to compete for attention from the opposite sex. We all have different ways of doing it, but we are all subconsciously aware that the more people we attract, the more attractive we are, therefore, the more socially powerful we are. For those of you who are still blissfully unaware of the fact that power is ALWAYS at play in every little social interaction well, this one might not be for you.
What we are going to try and do is to proverbially get them to "win" your attention and play on the transgressive excitement of winning "the other guys girl" through the subtlety and insinuation of flirting. All this requires is a little investment of time and an ability to flirt in stealth mode. You'll probably want to do this on a night that is on the slower side where you can invest some quality time with your group.
Here's how to do it:
First you have to figure out the order in which your going to give your attention to the guys. In each group there will be a hierarchy amongst the men as to who is the most attractive. You've experienced it with your gf's going out on the town... there's the most attractive one, the least attractive one and the ones that fall in between. Your going to want to start with either the least attractive one (in 2 or 3 sets) or the next to least attractive (in 4 sets and higher) and flirt your way "up". The reason for this is 1. The least attractive will most likely either stop giving you sufficient attention to pull off this trick or give up hope to win your attention when he sees you flirt with one of the more attractive guys and 2. The more attractive guys will wonder why you didn't go for them... this will spark their natural instinct to try and compete for what they feel is rightfully "theirs". So if the hierarchy isn't immediately obvious don't waste time, just talk to the one who is most interested on you.
OK so now you've got your first victim... your sitting there chatting with him, maybe you've pulled him away for a dance or VIP or maybe you've gotten him to buy you a drink or maybe not. Let your eyes catch your next victims' eyes as your talking with #1. What your trying to do here is show #2 that your interested while keeping #1 totally unaware. Next, interject into something that #2 has said or include him in your convo with #1 .... what your trying to do here is prove your interest in #2 by including him.
At this point #2's heart is racing due to the transgressive nature of your interest and #1 is going to be fighting harder for your attention which, if obvious enough will spark the interest of the other members of the group, but hopefully it's not so hard that he feels like he's losing you. The goal is to make each guy feel like you like them the best.
OK well i could go on and on in this scenario, but i hope you've got the big picture here so i don't have to. It really shouldn't take too much of your time to do all of this and remember: your ultimate goal is to make money. Make sure your pulling each guy for dances as you go along. don't forget: the goal is to make each guy think you like him the best so when you pull #2 away make sure you flirtily (wow, is that a word) ask #1 if he minds. Make sure your very flirty when you do! Otherwise he'll get jealous or even worse see through your little trick!
An argument could be made over just how naive men can be when it comes to girls playing them.... which is what we as strippers are born to do. It's my personal experience that men will believe what they want to believe. I mean, our job is to make them think we like them and of course %99.9999 percent of the time we don't! This trick is ADVANCED. It takes sneakiness and finesse and sneaky-finesse to pull this one off.
****** For those of you who would prefer a not so sneaky version of "getting more out of groups" Just sit and talk with the group, see if anyone else is eying you (and one of them probably will since you've already been deemed attractive by one of the other members of his group) or have fun with it and ask #1 who he thinks would like a dance from you... I'd do it in a mischievous tone ;) I don't know, there's a lot of fun ways to get dances from more than one guy in a group, but the fact that you've already danced for someone else in their group makes you THAT much hotter to them. trust me. Transgressive, but true.
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
Tuesday, September 9, 2008
Update
So if you haven't noticed, I've taken a little break from posting for a bit. I recently gave birth to a absolutely gorgeous little boy named Zen on 8/8/08 and I haven't been as active in my studies as usual due to the amount of attention I love to shower my little one with... and it's kind of hard to type with one hand!
Anyhow, my scheming ass will be back in stripper action soon so look forward to some new posts here eventually. I'm having a hard time figuring out what topic I'm going to cover next so feel free to e-mail suggestions!
<3 Princess P
Anyhow, my scheming ass will be back in stripper action soon so look forward to some new posts here eventually. I'm having a hard time figuring out what topic I'm going to cover next so feel free to e-mail suggestions!
<3 Princess P
Thursday, August 7, 2008
* Stupidity vs. Intelligence
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You may just end up hating me for what I am about to write, but, it works...... so I'm going to write about it for those of you who are smart enough to try it.
Acting too smart will lose you a sale. There are a million reasons for this. Acting too dumb will also lose you a sale.... but not as often as acting smart will!
There is a continuum between acting intelligent and acting stupid... a scale if you will. The way you act falls somewhere along this continuum as well as how your customer acts. You always want to be lower on the continuum than your customer, but you must never be too much lower! Lets say for example you have a client with an IQ of 60 who can barely do his job as a janitor... your going to act a lot dumber with him than you will with someone who has a doctorate! In fact, if you can get a moron to call you dumb, then your doing perfect. People with below average IQs love to point out when they feel smarter than someone.... cause it doesn't happen very often.
As much as people (women especially) love to think that they want someone who is smart... what they fail to realize is that what they want is someone who is smart.... just not as smart as they are. Think about it. Would you really choose to be with someone who makes you feel stupid all the time or would you rather be with someone who you can "impress" with your smarts? Everyone wants the upper hand!
Your job is to be a fantasy girl right? Right. So, to truly be a fantasy (for most men) you must give them the upper hand. Well, actually your not really giving them the upper hand, your just making it seem that way.I know it sucks to swallow your pride but that's partially why it works so well.
OK so let's take a look now as to WHY acting dumber than your client works oh so well.
#1. It's a boost to their ego. In my previous blog I described how men spend money at a strip club because they can meet various needs on "Maslow's hierarchy of needs" through our services. You work towards meeting esteem and safety needs by making them feel smarter than you. Perhaps even "belongingness needs" if they are the type that often feel like an outcast due to their lack of intelligence. The tricky part is meeting their cognitive needs without "getting too smart", but I've talked about that in my previous blog already.
The big thing here though is that it raises their self esteem. Like I said before, everyone wants the upper hand, and our clients deal with that every day of their life... everyone else trying to get the upper hand on them! Their co-workers constantly trying to outshine them, their children talking back to them, their friends making fun of them... who can they truly impress when everyone is trying to gain the upper hand over them?
That's where we come in. We give them something that they can't get anywhere else. Someone who they can "impress" with their knowledge and skills, someone who can appreciate them and someone who they can truly feel better than. Their intelligence is one of the main sources of their vanity so try to boost it rather than challenge it.
#2. They underestimate your sales ability. I mean come on... how is someone who isn't as smart as you going to outwit you out of your hard earned dough? The more unassuming you seem the less likely you are to manipulate them... well in their eyes at least.
When they accuse you of trying to get their money just open your eyes real wide and act appalled! LOL... tell them you hadn't even thought of it! If you've been acting dumb enough they'll probably believe you. Just quickly change the subject back to how amazing they are and how badly you want to get naked for them and they'll forget all about it.
3. It makes you "endearing". And yes, endearing is the term we are going for here NOT annoying, which is what you will get if you act too dumb. What we are going for is more of a child-like playfulness. You want to seem "fun" and it's really hard to seem fun when your showing off your brains for something.
Defensiveness, challenge, strength, boredom, these are some of the things tied to intellectualism that can often have us running for the hills, especially when we are out to just enjoy ourselves! Stupidity however is often associated with comedy, naiveness, and love which have the ability to soften our hearts. How many times have you heard of someone "with a lot of heart"? How do you picture them? I'd put money on you assuming them to be more naive than intellectual.
The world is full of people who think they know more than you, but the truly endearing ones are the ones that just don't care that you know more than them. They are often called "sweethearts" : ).
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There are certain men however that would prefer a "bitch". These men want humiliation, they crave submission. I really don't have much expertise in this area, however, I would still imagine that it would be best to keep things "simple" and not over emphasize your intellect.
Another positive aspect of keeping things "simple" is that they are able to tune out your "bland" words and focus on YOU. Ideas and conversation that is too complex distracts them from focusing on your beauty, your mystery, your sexuality.
Acting dumber than you really are is a way of controlling attention. It's a tool for distraction. You are distracting them from what is really going on by letting the spotlight fall on them. By making them feel good. From underneath your psychological disguise you can make insinuations and suggestions that will pull or push them in whatever direction you want them to go - and they will be that less likely to suspect anything.
It's so hard to let people think they are smarter than you - just like them your intelligence is a major part of your vanity. This is why it's so hard for people to see through your disguise though. Very few people have the intelligence to even imagine that it's possible to act dumber than you are and even less have the ability to understand why you would do such a thing. So suck up your ego and use their naivety to your advantage!
You may just end up hating me for what I am about to write, but, it works...... so I'm going to write about it for those of you who are smart enough to try it.
Acting too smart will lose you a sale. There are a million reasons for this. Acting too dumb will also lose you a sale.... but not as often as acting smart will!
There is a continuum between acting intelligent and acting stupid... a scale if you will. The way you act falls somewhere along this continuum as well as how your customer acts. You always want to be lower on the continuum than your customer, but you must never be too much lower! Lets say for example you have a client with an IQ of 60 who can barely do his job as a janitor... your going to act a lot dumber with him than you will with someone who has a doctorate! In fact, if you can get a moron to call you dumb, then your doing perfect. People with below average IQs love to point out when they feel smarter than someone.... cause it doesn't happen very often.
As much as people (women especially) love to think that they want someone who is smart... what they fail to realize is that what they want is someone who is smart.... just not as smart as they are. Think about it. Would you really choose to be with someone who makes you feel stupid all the time or would you rather be with someone who you can "impress" with your smarts? Everyone wants the upper hand!
Your job is to be a fantasy girl right? Right. So, to truly be a fantasy (for most men) you must give them the upper hand. Well, actually your not really giving them the upper hand, your just making it seem that way.I know it sucks to swallow your pride but that's partially why it works so well.
OK so let's take a look now as to WHY acting dumber than your client works oh so well.
#1. It's a boost to their ego. In my previous blog I described how men spend money at a strip club because they can meet various needs on "Maslow's hierarchy of needs" through our services. You work towards meeting esteem and safety needs by making them feel smarter than you. Perhaps even "belongingness needs" if they are the type that often feel like an outcast due to their lack of intelligence. The tricky part is meeting their cognitive needs without "getting too smart", but I've talked about that in my previous blog already.
The big thing here though is that it raises their self esteem. Like I said before, everyone wants the upper hand, and our clients deal with that every day of their life... everyone else trying to get the upper hand on them! Their co-workers constantly trying to outshine them, their children talking back to them, their friends making fun of them... who can they truly impress when everyone is trying to gain the upper hand over them?
That's where we come in. We give them something that they can't get anywhere else. Someone who they can "impress" with their knowledge and skills, someone who can appreciate them and someone who they can truly feel better than. Their intelligence is one of the main sources of their vanity so try to boost it rather than challenge it.
#2. They underestimate your sales ability. I mean come on... how is someone who isn't as smart as you going to outwit you out of your hard earned dough? The more unassuming you seem the less likely you are to manipulate them... well in their eyes at least.
When they accuse you of trying to get their money just open your eyes real wide and act appalled! LOL... tell them you hadn't even thought of it! If you've been acting dumb enough they'll probably believe you. Just quickly change the subject back to how amazing they are and how badly you want to get naked for them and they'll forget all about it.
3. It makes you "endearing". And yes, endearing is the term we are going for here NOT annoying, which is what you will get if you act too dumb. What we are going for is more of a child-like playfulness. You want to seem "fun" and it's really hard to seem fun when your showing off your brains for something.
Defensiveness, challenge, strength, boredom, these are some of the things tied to intellectualism that can often have us running for the hills, especially when we are out to just enjoy ourselves! Stupidity however is often associated with comedy, naiveness, and love which have the ability to soften our hearts. How many times have you heard of someone "with a lot of heart"? How do you picture them? I'd put money on you assuming them to be more naive than intellectual.
The world is full of people who think they know more than you, but the truly endearing ones are the ones that just don't care that you know more than them. They are often called "sweethearts" : ).
*********
There are certain men however that would prefer a "bitch". These men want humiliation, they crave submission. I really don't have much expertise in this area, however, I would still imagine that it would be best to keep things "simple" and not over emphasize your intellect.
Another positive aspect of keeping things "simple" is that they are able to tune out your "bland" words and focus on YOU. Ideas and conversation that is too complex distracts them from focusing on your beauty, your mystery, your sexuality.
Acting dumber than you really are is a way of controlling attention. It's a tool for distraction. You are distracting them from what is really going on by letting the spotlight fall on them. By making them feel good. From underneath your psychological disguise you can make insinuations and suggestions that will pull or push them in whatever direction you want them to go - and they will be that less likely to suspect anything.
It's so hard to let people think they are smarter than you - just like them your intelligence is a major part of your vanity. This is why it's so hard for people to see through your disguise though. Very few people have the intelligence to even imagine that it's possible to act dumber than you are and even less have the ability to understand why you would do such a thing. So suck up your ego and use their naivety to your advantage!
Monday, August 4, 2008
* Integrated Stripping
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Consciousness is a scarce resource believe it or not. We can all only be conscious of so much at any given time. The process of enlightenment is to expand your consciousness so that you can be aware of more than you were aware of before.
One of the best ways to "map" our consciousness is through Integralism. One of the things Interalism does is it takes a picture of everything that we can possibly be aware of and puts it into graphs and charts. Integralism states that everything is meant to be, yet everything falls into various levels of complexity, going from simplistic to ornate, depending on how much material it encompasses.
Therefore, the more material you are able to be aware of, the higher skill level you will be operating on.
Take a moment to study the chart on the left. Anything you could ever imagine in the whole world can be plotted out on this very chart, including all knowledge related to making money as a stripper. It helps us see what we might other wise miss, and where our knowledge rests.
Stripping is mostly an art that deals with the individuals involved (dancer and customer) therefore most of what we study will take place in the upper (individual) quadrants of the Integralsim graph. However, what we do also has communal implications too, and to be truly an artist in our craft, we must also have perspective as to what our profession MEANS in culture and society to stay on top of our game.
For now, let's concentrate on the individuals: the dancer and the customer. Each obviously has needs that need no get met during their exchange.... to get an idea of the FULL range of these needs, let's look at one of the most famous psychological concepts: Maslow's hierarchy of needs.
As strippers, we are mostly focused on one thing that will take care of many of our needs: money. We must provide for ourselves and anyone that depends on us.
However, to be able to perform our job well, there are other needs that must be met... in fact the more, the better. Obviously esteem is one of the greatest factors as to whether we will have a good night or not, as well as everything below it.
What I propose however is that to be a top earner, you must not only have the four lower needs met (also known as deficiency needs), but also meet the upper level needs as well (known as self actualization needs). Once again, the more, the better. For example, reading this blog helps fulfill cognitive needs that help you to "hustle". Anything that helps you understand your job better works towards that goal. Stripping itself can actually offer a source of fulfillment to your needs as well. For example, the female body is a work of art when used with grace and poise and when you appreciate that you are meeting your aesthetic needs.
As for the higher levels of needs, all i can say is that if your not growing your regressing, but if you can find ways to use your profession to help you gain further understanding of yourself and then leverage that into an understanding spirit, you will go far : ).
The more ways you can find ways to meet your needs with your job, the better you will be at it. A girl who cannot find inspiration in what she does will show her lack of interest towards the customers. The more you are able to find things in your job that make you happy, the more excited you will be about it! Just look at the hierarchy and ask yourself how you can satisfy yourself through being a stripper.
The customer represents the upper left hand corner of the integral chart above and is equally important to have a comprehensive understanding of. They are the corner stone of our work and without them, we would be doing nothing. However, I say that the customer is equally important to the dancer because the dancer is the product and without a solid product there is no customer.
A customer purchases time with a dancer because it fulfills one of his needs. I would say that the percentage of men coming in for one need actually directly corresponds to the hierarchy. For example, there are more men that will come in to meet their biological need for sexual excitement than there are men that come in for the esteem boost that some dancers will provide him. And that there are more men that come in to meet their need for belongingness then there are men that need to satisfy their aesthetic taste.
There are even a smaller amount of men who come in to fulfill their need for personal growth, but I can assure you that there are a few men out there who do. However, you will never understand how they meet that need if you cannot meet that need for yourself.
Let's take a look at each need and how we as strippers are able to capitalize on fulfilling it.
1. Physiological - for the most part we take care of these ourselves. I mean, there are people at the club that help us meet these: the cook, the waitress, the janitor... But, there is one physiological need that we are able to simulate fulfilling: sex. Every man needs sex and those that deny that to themselves are literally fasting in a way and it's usually only to meet needs of self actualization that they will deny themselves of it. Sex is the most important part of our job. If men can't get sex, then what we provide is the next best thing: the idea / simulation of sex.
2. Safety - This is of course the second most important thing that you can provide as a dancer - the first of course simulating desire / sexuality. You must be able to make your customer feel safe around you. If he feels threatened by you, like you are going to demoralize him or belittle him or make him feel uncomfortable, he's not going to spend anything! He needs to feel like he is in a safe place where people aren't going to (both physically and socially) attack him for what he is doing and if they do, that he will have someone on his side to protect him - be on his side.
3. Belongingness - I'd say that at least %70 of the people that walk in the club have a need for belonging that has not been met. The world is a harsh place where it can be hard to find acceptance for who you are. Even those that have reached self actualization still have the need to be accepted by others, even though it may not be as strong of a need as others not so high in consciousness. Make your customers feel at home with you and you will settle this need while they are with you. Never make them feel awkward or out of place and you should be fine.
4. Self Esteem - Meeting this need is THE TICKET to success as a dancer. Make your customer feel good about himself!!!!!! I can't tell you enough how far this will go. People crave acceptance - men in particular need to feel sexually attractive and I'd say that this is probably THE reason strip clubs are so popular. Where else can you have a plethura of naked women at your feet begging for your attention? Stroke their ego. Seriously. That is why they come to strip clubs. Some men need the verbal reinforcement to their esteem, but others will need you to just sit there and act cool to make themselves feel cooler. The more esteem they have, the less verbal you need to be.
- The above four needs were all deficiency needs which means that they are the base of all other needs. We now move into self actualization needs which are like the icing on the cake. -
5. Cognition - There are a few ways to meet this need - humor, encouragement, listening, conversation, anything that stimulates their mind. People need to be mentally stimulated. however, make sure that you do not challenge their ego; let them do the thinking and keep their mind going without putting too much pressure on it. The best way to meet this need is by letting them feel smart. Let them instruct you on something - even if it's something ou already know about. The more they talk about something the better. Challenge them through questions... not through your own thoughts, which, if your reading this blog, could make them feel somewhat inadequate and trample their esteem! Humor is probably the best way to meet this need... you can also play games, or riddles...
6. Aesthetics - Just being a woman is an aesthetic. After all, we are beautiful creatures. However, if you want to take it farther and meet this need to a greater extent, you might want to look into enhancing your skill as a dancer or using novelty to your advantage. Learn pole dancing, acrobatics, get flexible, or dress in beautiful outfits, or costumes. Do your hair in spectacular updos with feathers and bows.... anything that will enhance your beauty, or make you more like a piece of art will satisfy their aesthetic needs.
7. Self actualization - This of course is going to be hard for most of us to provide for men because most of us are still working on figuring out how to provide it for ourselves! However, I'd like to associate self-actualization with peak experiences, and if you provide your customers with all of the above needs at the same time, you are providing a peak experience. If you can get him into a state of bliss where he is thinking to himself "wow, i didn't know life could be this good!" - then I think you have gotten as close to this as a stripper can get.
8. Self-transcendence - Transcendence is meditative so not only will you have to be able to get into that state, but you will have to get your customer in that state as well. You might be able to do this through hypnotism, but I have personally never taken it to this level, so I cannot vouch for how or if it works. If you want to take it into spiritual territory in conversation then by all means give it a shot, but I think most men.... as in %99 will not be ready for that yet. You will only be able to take it as far as your customer is "developed" to handle.
What you need to do is take a good look at each customer and try to asses their level of development so that you can have an understanding of what their unfulfilled needs are. Everyone, even the people who are higher up in development share ALL of these needs. There are just people who are more capable of meeting their own needs and/or are more fulfilled than others. But, just because they are fulfilled, doesn't mean that they couldn't use more of a good thing right?
The chart I have provided above is an invaluable tool that you can use to identify the levels of development of your customers. I find that the easiest way to do this is to start my assessment with Maslow and then fill in the details with the rest.
So, in our integrated approach we have looked at ourselves as dancers, our clients, but what about what we "are" as professionals in society? The way society views us has a major impact on the way our customers see us. I'll have to leave this topic for another blog though because it's getting late and I need to sleep : )
For now just know that everything that has to do with stripping falls somewhere on the first chart that is provided above and everything is relevant!!!!
If you would like to know more about integralism and how it can be applied to other fields than stripping (health, spirituality, business etc...) I suggest The Integral Vision by Ken Wilber - the genius mind behind integralism!!!
Consciousness is a scarce resource believe it or not. We can all only be conscious of so much at any given time. The process of enlightenment is to expand your consciousness so that you can be aware of more than you were aware of before.One of the best ways to "map" our consciousness is through Integralism. One of the things Interalism does is it takes a picture of everything that we can possibly be aware of and puts it into graphs and charts. Integralism states that everything is meant to be, yet everything falls into various levels of complexity, going from simplistic to ornate, depending on how much material it encompasses.
Therefore, the more material you are able to be aware of, the higher skill level you will be operating on.
Take a moment to study the chart on the left. Anything you could ever imagine in the whole world can be plotted out on this very chart, including all knowledge related to making money as a stripper. It helps us see what we might other wise miss, and where our knowledge rests.
Stripping is mostly an art that deals with the individuals involved (dancer and customer) therefore most of what we study will take place in the upper (individual) quadrants of the Integralsim graph. However, what we do also has communal implications too, and to be truly an artist in our craft, we must also have perspective as to what our profession MEANS in culture and society to stay on top of our game.
For now, let's concentrate on the individuals: the dancer and the customer. Each obviously has needs that need no get met during their exchange.... to get an idea of the FULL range of these needs, let's look at one of the most famous psychological concepts: Maslow's hierarchy of needs.
As strippers, we are mostly focused on one thing that will take care of many of our needs: money. We must provide for ourselves and anyone that depends on us.
However, to be able to perform our job well, there are other needs that must be met... in fact the more, the better. Obviously esteem is one of the greatest factors as to whether we will have a good night or not, as well as everything below it.
What I propose however is that to be a top earner, you must not only have the four lower needs met (also known as deficiency needs), but also meet the upper level needs as well (known as self actualization needs). Once again, the more, the better. For example, reading this blog helps fulfill cognitive needs that help you to "hustle". Anything that helps you understand your job better works towards that goal. Stripping itself can actually offer a source of fulfillment to your needs as well. For example, the female body is a work of art when used with grace and poise and when you appreciate that you are meeting your aesthetic needs.
As for the higher levels of needs, all i can say is that if your not growing your regressing, but if you can find ways to use your profession to help you gain further understanding of yourself and then leverage that into an understanding spirit, you will go far : ).
The more ways you can find ways to meet your needs with your job, the better you will be at it. A girl who cannot find inspiration in what she does will show her lack of interest towards the customers. The more you are able to find things in your job that make you happy, the more excited you will be about it! Just look at the hierarchy and ask yourself how you can satisfy yourself through being a stripper.
The customer represents the upper left hand corner of the integral chart above and is equally important to have a comprehensive understanding of. They are the corner stone of our work and without them, we would be doing nothing. However, I say that the customer is equally important to the dancer because the dancer is the product and without a solid product there is no customer.
A customer purchases time with a dancer because it fulfills one of his needs. I would say that the percentage of men coming in for one need actually directly corresponds to the hierarchy. For example, there are more men that will come in to meet their biological need for sexual excitement than there are men that come in for the esteem boost that some dancers will provide him. And that there are more men that come in to meet their need for belongingness then there are men that need to satisfy their aesthetic taste.
There are even a smaller amount of men who come in to fulfill their need for personal growth, but I can assure you that there are a few men out there who do. However, you will never understand how they meet that need if you cannot meet that need for yourself.
Let's take a look at each need and how we as strippers are able to capitalize on fulfilling it.
1. Physiological - for the most part we take care of these ourselves. I mean, there are people at the club that help us meet these: the cook, the waitress, the janitor... But, there is one physiological need that we are able to simulate fulfilling: sex. Every man needs sex and those that deny that to themselves are literally fasting in a way and it's usually only to meet needs of self actualization that they will deny themselves of it. Sex is the most important part of our job. If men can't get sex, then what we provide is the next best thing: the idea / simulation of sex.
2. Safety - This is of course the second most important thing that you can provide as a dancer - the first of course simulating desire / sexuality. You must be able to make your customer feel safe around you. If he feels threatened by you, like you are going to demoralize him or belittle him or make him feel uncomfortable, he's not going to spend anything! He needs to feel like he is in a safe place where people aren't going to (both physically and socially) attack him for what he is doing and if they do, that he will have someone on his side to protect him - be on his side.
3. Belongingness - I'd say that at least %70 of the people that walk in the club have a need for belonging that has not been met. The world is a harsh place where it can be hard to find acceptance for who you are. Even those that have reached self actualization still have the need to be accepted by others, even though it may not be as strong of a need as others not so high in consciousness. Make your customers feel at home with you and you will settle this need while they are with you. Never make them feel awkward or out of place and you should be fine.
4. Self Esteem - Meeting this need is THE TICKET to success as a dancer. Make your customer feel good about himself!!!!!! I can't tell you enough how far this will go. People crave acceptance - men in particular need to feel sexually attractive and I'd say that this is probably THE reason strip clubs are so popular. Where else can you have a plethura of naked women at your feet begging for your attention? Stroke their ego. Seriously. That is why they come to strip clubs. Some men need the verbal reinforcement to their esteem, but others will need you to just sit there and act cool to make themselves feel cooler. The more esteem they have, the less verbal you need to be.
- The above four needs were all deficiency needs which means that they are the base of all other needs. We now move into self actualization needs which are like the icing on the cake. -
5. Cognition - There are a few ways to meet this need - humor, encouragement, listening, conversation, anything that stimulates their mind. People need to be mentally stimulated. however, make sure that you do not challenge their ego; let them do the thinking and keep their mind going without putting too much pressure on it. The best way to meet this need is by letting them feel smart. Let them instruct you on something - even if it's something ou already know about. The more they talk about something the better. Challenge them through questions... not through your own thoughts, which, if your reading this blog, could make them feel somewhat inadequate and trample their esteem! Humor is probably the best way to meet this need... you can also play games, or riddles...
6. Aesthetics - Just being a woman is an aesthetic. After all, we are beautiful creatures. However, if you want to take it farther and meet this need to a greater extent, you might want to look into enhancing your skill as a dancer or using novelty to your advantage. Learn pole dancing, acrobatics, get flexible, or dress in beautiful outfits, or costumes. Do your hair in spectacular updos with feathers and bows.... anything that will enhance your beauty, or make you more like a piece of art will satisfy their aesthetic needs.
7. Self actualization - This of course is going to be hard for most of us to provide for men because most of us are still working on figuring out how to provide it for ourselves! However, I'd like to associate self-actualization with peak experiences, and if you provide your customers with all of the above needs at the same time, you are providing a peak experience. If you can get him into a state of bliss where he is thinking to himself "wow, i didn't know life could be this good!" - then I think you have gotten as close to this as a stripper can get.
8. Self-transcendence - Transcendence is meditative so not only will you have to be able to get into that state, but you will have to get your customer in that state as well. You might be able to do this through hypnotism, but I have personally never taken it to this level, so I cannot vouch for how or if it works. If you want to take it into spiritual territory in conversation then by all means give it a shot, but I think most men.... as in %99 will not be ready for that yet. You will only be able to take it as far as your customer is "developed" to handle.
What you need to do is take a good look at each customer and try to asses their level of development so that you can have an understanding of what their unfulfilled needs are. Everyone, even the people who are higher up in development share ALL of these needs. There are just people who are more capable of meeting their own needs and/or are more fulfilled than others. But, just because they are fulfilled, doesn't mean that they couldn't use more of a good thing right?The chart I have provided above is an invaluable tool that you can use to identify the levels of development of your customers. I find that the easiest way to do this is to start my assessment with Maslow and then fill in the details with the rest.
So, in our integrated approach we have looked at ourselves as dancers, our clients, but what about what we "are" as professionals in society? The way society views us has a major impact on the way our customers see us. I'll have to leave this topic for another blog though because it's getting late and I need to sleep : )
For now just know that everything that has to do with stripping falls somewhere on the first chart that is provided above and everything is relevant!!!!
If you would like to know more about integralism and how it can be applied to other fields than stripping (health, spirituality, business etc...) I suggest The Integral Vision by Ken Wilber - the genius mind behind integralism!!!
Friday, August 1, 2008
* Creating a Fantasy
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Creating a fantasy. This IS the hardest part of our jobs as strippers... and the best part about it is that %80 of our success depends on our ability to do it.
There are many many girls out there who completely ignore this crucial factor of their job, in fact I would say the large majority of girls fall into this category. A small percentage actually take it into consideration and are able to leverage it into sales, and an even smaller - perhaps miniscule - percentage actually really look into Male psychology to find out an in-depth analysis of what the typical male fantasy IS.
The best place to look towards when trying to understand the psychology of the male fantasy is the science of socio-biology. To put it in basic terms, this is the science of how sex has influenced our social behaviors and gender differences. Men see the world in such a different way than women do it's hard to understand how we ever get along, but we are genetically designed to do so despite our differences! We as women however, MUST respect the differences in the psychology of the opposite gender if we EVER hope to be able to appeal to them.
That being said, girls who focus on sales are doing so at the great risk of degrading their fantasy value. What they fail to realize is that they ARE the product that they are trying to sell, and instead of enhancing the quality of their product according to customer preferences, they focus on SELLING the product. Now I would say that the ability to say the right things to make a sale is going to account for %20 of your success. I mean, even if you say all the right things, if your product doesn't meet the criteria set forth by the average male fantasy, you aren't going to get anywhere. If fact, sometimes "saying all the right things to make a sale" is working AGAINST the fantasy. No one wants to be "sold" something and by focusing on the sale you are bringing attention to it.
Like I said YOU are the product... YOUR ACT is the product - and if your act is based on "selling" then who is going to want to buy that act? If your "act" however is based on being a sex-driven, fun-to-be-around, beautiful young woman.... well I think you'll be a lot more successful with the gents! Just like anything though, it's never black and white. If you focus on psychology without a bit of sales know how, you aren't going to be able to close anything! It's a delicate mind game that you will have to play with yourself as to the portion of sales technique that you actually apply to be able to keep the fantasy alive without taking away your ability to make a sale. But, please remember to not let dry sales technique take over your "Hustle" otherwise you will be degrading your fantasy value.
The fantasy girl that we must learn to portray as strippers is often times not true to our core selves, but we must learn to over come the nagging in our head to be "authentic" and learn to ACT. There are tricks and techniques to use that will help you out on this, but acting is the most crucial part of your performance. Once a guy feels that you are taking the piss with him, it could be all over. Your job is to learn how to deal with this, how to recover from your slips as quickly and quietly as possible.
Stage magic actually offers some of the BEST techniques for being able to create the illusion of reality. It teaches you how to direct attention which is probably the best way to cover up sales technique! The best trick that stage magic teaches though is to make yourself believe that what you are trying to make look real ACTUALLY IS real. I'll write a blog on how to do this at some other time.
Men consciously KNOW that we are there to make money but subconsciously their minds are FILLED with the possibility of taking us home. Even though they know and accept that what we are saying could be BS their subconscious wants it so badly to NOT be BS that they will fall for our "sincerity". Even though they want to believe it, they also want to "know" that it's real... which will cause them to try and test you. Yes, THEY WILL TEST YOUR SINCERITY. But the best thing to do is to never EVER let them think / focus on the fact that you are manipulating them for money.
Once again, the MOST important thing about stripping is the fantasy, for the fantasy IS the product. The second most important thing is knowing HOW to sell that fantasy without ruining it!
So the main steps to creating fantasy:
1. Do research as to what the male fantasy is
2. Don't let sales technique degrade your "act"
3. Learn how to act to make fantasy reality.
4. Learn how to control attention to cover up sales technique and slip-ups.
I'll try my best to go into these further in future posts, but for now, try and figure out how to do as much of this on your own as you can : ) good luck!
Creating a fantasy. This IS the hardest part of our jobs as strippers... and the best part about it is that %80 of our success depends on our ability to do it.
There are many many girls out there who completely ignore this crucial factor of their job, in fact I would say the large majority of girls fall into this category. A small percentage actually take it into consideration and are able to leverage it into sales, and an even smaller - perhaps miniscule - percentage actually really look into Male psychology to find out an in-depth analysis of what the typical male fantasy IS.
The best place to look towards when trying to understand the psychology of the male fantasy is the science of socio-biology. To put it in basic terms, this is the science of how sex has influenced our social behaviors and gender differences. Men see the world in such a different way than women do it's hard to understand how we ever get along, but we are genetically designed to do so despite our differences! We as women however, MUST respect the differences in the psychology of the opposite gender if we EVER hope to be able to appeal to them.
That being said, girls who focus on sales are doing so at the great risk of degrading their fantasy value. What they fail to realize is that they ARE the product that they are trying to sell, and instead of enhancing the quality of their product according to customer preferences, they focus on SELLING the product. Now I would say that the ability to say the right things to make a sale is going to account for %20 of your success. I mean, even if you say all the right things, if your product doesn't meet the criteria set forth by the average male fantasy, you aren't going to get anywhere. If fact, sometimes "saying all the right things to make a sale" is working AGAINST the fantasy. No one wants to be "sold" something and by focusing on the sale you are bringing attention to it.
Like I said YOU are the product... YOUR ACT is the product - and if your act is based on "selling" then who is going to want to buy that act? If your "act" however is based on being a sex-driven, fun-to-be-around, beautiful young woman.... well I think you'll be a lot more successful with the gents! Just like anything though, it's never black and white. If you focus on psychology without a bit of sales know how, you aren't going to be able to close anything! It's a delicate mind game that you will have to play with yourself as to the portion of sales technique that you actually apply to be able to keep the fantasy alive without taking away your ability to make a sale. But, please remember to not let dry sales technique take over your "Hustle" otherwise you will be degrading your fantasy value.
The fantasy girl that we must learn to portray as strippers is often times not true to our core selves, but we must learn to over come the nagging in our head to be "authentic" and learn to ACT. There are tricks and techniques to use that will help you out on this, but acting is the most crucial part of your performance. Once a guy feels that you are taking the piss with him, it could be all over. Your job is to learn how to deal with this, how to recover from your slips as quickly and quietly as possible.
Stage magic actually offers some of the BEST techniques for being able to create the illusion of reality. It teaches you how to direct attention which is probably the best way to cover up sales technique! The best trick that stage magic teaches though is to make yourself believe that what you are trying to make look real ACTUALLY IS real. I'll write a blog on how to do this at some other time.
Men consciously KNOW that we are there to make money but subconsciously their minds are FILLED with the possibility of taking us home. Even though they know and accept that what we are saying could be BS their subconscious wants it so badly to NOT be BS that they will fall for our "sincerity". Even though they want to believe it, they also want to "know" that it's real... which will cause them to try and test you. Yes, THEY WILL TEST YOUR SINCERITY. But the best thing to do is to never EVER let them think / focus on the fact that you are manipulating them for money.
Once again, the MOST important thing about stripping is the fantasy, for the fantasy IS the product. The second most important thing is knowing HOW to sell that fantasy without ruining it!
So the main steps to creating fantasy:
1. Do research as to what the male fantasy is
2. Don't let sales technique degrade your "act"
3. Learn how to act to make fantasy reality.
4. Learn how to control attention to cover up sales technique and slip-ups.
I'll try my best to go into these further in future posts, but for now, try and figure out how to do as much of this on your own as you can : ) good luck!
Thursday, July 31, 2008
* Options for OTC and # requests
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Here's the trick:
1. You always WISH you could contact them OTC, but you can't for X reasons
2. Quickly turn it around into an assumption of sale or a change of subject.
Reviewing many of the posts on SW regarding this manner, most girls seem to have a pretty clear understanding of part 1. Obviously, if you give them any inclination that you could see them out of the club if you wanted to, but you just don't, it breaks the fantasy - more like obliterates the fantasy. No man wants to be rejected.... but if your being honest.... thats exactly what your doing. That's why to do your job as effectively as possible, honesty is not the best policy.
Men want to be wanted by you... so think about it, what would you say to a guy that you honestly found attractive, but you don't have the time for outside of work (where you need to make money btw!)? First of all you would be disappointed that your "dream" guy just asked you for your number or to see you OTC, but you just can't. You would be hopeful that he really liked you and that he'll spend money on you so that he can be around you. Also, you'd have to have a good enough reason to turn down your dream guy because you had to work. After all, if you really liked him you would make room for him in your life... unless you have a REAL good excuse.
One excuse that any dancer could get away with is the "school" excuse. You pay for your own school and you go to school full time so you have A LOT of homework! And, when your not doing homework you need to be making as much money as possible to support yourself. It's easy to get away with because any man that would try to get in between you and an education would be obviously selfish.
There is one excuse that could be the mother of all excuses - literally :). The "I have a kid" excuse. It covers all the bases... you need money to support your child and when your not at work your spending time with your beautiful little one. You don't take calls because you don't want to be spending time on the phone when your watching your child - you give him/her your undivided attention. Also, playing up the single mom role gives the man the opportunity to step up as a "hero".
You can also try the "in debt" excuse... in which stripping is like one of three other jobs that you have to keep to get your ass out of debt. The key to this excuse is having jobs where they can't contact you or come and see you like nannying or working at a warehouse... otherwise you could potentially "see them out of the club"... and why would they spend money on you ITC if they can see you OTC?
You want situations that can not only justify your inability to send time with people you meet OTC, but also justify their spending money on you ITC ( -the more it makes them feel like a "hero" to spend money on you the better- ).
Remember: one of the main aspects that is wicked important is making them know that you WISH you could spend time with them. It's sooooo important to stroke their egos. Each man has particular things about his ego that need to be stroked, but the one thing all men have in common is that they want to be wanted. They want to feel like they are sexually attractive by women who are sexually attractive. The degree to which you show your interest in a guy is topic for a whole other blog, but for now just know that if you don't seem interested in him then you aren't interested in making the sale!
The next step is to quickly assume the sale once you have deflected the OTC approach. It's called controlling their attention. They were focused on getting to contact you out of the club, but what you want them to focus on now is getting excited about spending time with you ITC.
It helps to not have made a big deal about why you can't see them OTC first of all. If you spend too much time and energy on explaining yourself then you won't be able to divert their attention away very easily because YOU put so much attention into it. The customer will pay attention to whatever you are paying attention to - and what you REALLY want to pay attention to is how much fun he is going to have with you.
First just say that your busy or that you can't (while implying that you wish you could but that it's not super important through your tone) If he continues to ask then quickly and nonchalantly make your excuse as to why you can't see him and then assume the sale - or change the subject. Here's an example for a guy you've recently met
You: Oh your soooo cute... lets go for a dance
Him: You know... what I'd really like is to see you outside of here sometime...
You: (flippantly) Oh but I'm so busy when I'm not working - (seductively) and we can have soooo much fun right here (pulling him away to the PRs) let's go have some fun *deviant smile*
Him: Oh come on... if you really liked me you'd just give me your number!
You: (getting slightly serious / pouty - bring out your excuse now) OK look... It's just that I work really hard going to school - I'm a full time student and I pay for everything myself (warming up again) and I really like you, I really want to spend time with you (getting even more seductive and saying close to his ear) Come on baby come play with me *sexy smile*(start leading him back to the rooms)
(* at this point keep slamming him with sexy to get him to forget about OTC and get him enjoying what's ITC)
If he keeps on being insistent you can pull out the "but I just met you" tactic. The best way to pull this off is to insinuate that even though you like him, he's a little strange for asking you to see him OTC when you've just met. It's very logical that if you are as busy as you say you are it's practically impossible for you to make room in your life for someone you barely know. If he's been a regular for a while just say that you still feel like you need to get to know him a little bit better and that you hope he can respect that.
If he keeps on insisting after that you can bust out the "It's really unbecoming to beg" tactic. But, if he keeps on insisting after that you can pretty much write this one off as a lost cause. Make sure he knows that you can't deal with his begging any longer because you need to feel like you are being respected. And when you say "no" that means "no" - you wish you could but you just can't and that he needs to respect that. Any guy who pushes farther than that is being disrespectful and even though it seems harmless, he is basicly shitting on your words - he's telling you that your thoughts and needs mean nothing to him - which I personally see as emotional abuse.
Every guy that walks into the SC wants to get to get to see the girls he likes OTC. Somewhere deep inside of him - even though he may rationally realize that it is impossible - wants to have sex with you. It will ALWAYS be a part of your job to effectively dismiss the OTC attempts while maintaining your image as a fantasy girl. The best way to do it is to employ as many of the above tactics as possible. Good luck :D
Here's the trick:
1. You always WISH you could contact them OTC, but you can't for X reasons
2. Quickly turn it around into an assumption of sale or a change of subject.
Reviewing many of the posts on SW regarding this manner, most girls seem to have a pretty clear understanding of part 1. Obviously, if you give them any inclination that you could see them out of the club if you wanted to, but you just don't, it breaks the fantasy - more like obliterates the fantasy. No man wants to be rejected.... but if your being honest.... thats exactly what your doing. That's why to do your job as effectively as possible, honesty is not the best policy.
Men want to be wanted by you... so think about it, what would you say to a guy that you honestly found attractive, but you don't have the time for outside of work (where you need to make money btw!)? First of all you would be disappointed that your "dream" guy just asked you for your number or to see you OTC, but you just can't. You would be hopeful that he really liked you and that he'll spend money on you so that he can be around you. Also, you'd have to have a good enough reason to turn down your dream guy because you had to work. After all, if you really liked him you would make room for him in your life... unless you have a REAL good excuse.
One excuse that any dancer could get away with is the "school" excuse. You pay for your own school and you go to school full time so you have A LOT of homework! And, when your not doing homework you need to be making as much money as possible to support yourself. It's easy to get away with because any man that would try to get in between you and an education would be obviously selfish.
There is one excuse that could be the mother of all excuses - literally :). The "I have a kid" excuse. It covers all the bases... you need money to support your child and when your not at work your spending time with your beautiful little one. You don't take calls because you don't want to be spending time on the phone when your watching your child - you give him/her your undivided attention. Also, playing up the single mom role gives the man the opportunity to step up as a "hero".
You can also try the "in debt" excuse... in which stripping is like one of three other jobs that you have to keep to get your ass out of debt. The key to this excuse is having jobs where they can't contact you or come and see you like nannying or working at a warehouse... otherwise you could potentially "see them out of the club"... and why would they spend money on you ITC if they can see you OTC?
You want situations that can not only justify your inability to send time with people you meet OTC, but also justify their spending money on you ITC ( -the more it makes them feel like a "hero" to spend money on you the better- ).
Remember: one of the main aspects that is wicked important is making them know that you WISH you could spend time with them. It's sooooo important to stroke their egos. Each man has particular things about his ego that need to be stroked, but the one thing all men have in common is that they want to be wanted. They want to feel like they are sexually attractive by women who are sexually attractive. The degree to which you show your interest in a guy is topic for a whole other blog, but for now just know that if you don't seem interested in him then you aren't interested in making the sale!
The next step is to quickly assume the sale once you have deflected the OTC approach. It's called controlling their attention. They were focused on getting to contact you out of the club, but what you want them to focus on now is getting excited about spending time with you ITC.
It helps to not have made a big deal about why you can't see them OTC first of all. If you spend too much time and energy on explaining yourself then you won't be able to divert their attention away very easily because YOU put so much attention into it. The customer will pay attention to whatever you are paying attention to - and what you REALLY want to pay attention to is how much fun he is going to have with you.
First just say that your busy or that you can't (while implying that you wish you could but that it's not super important through your tone) If he continues to ask then quickly and nonchalantly make your excuse as to why you can't see him and then assume the sale - or change the subject. Here's an example for a guy you've recently met
You: Oh your soooo cute... lets go for a dance
Him: You know... what I'd really like is to see you outside of here sometime...
You: (flippantly) Oh but I'm so busy when I'm not working - (seductively) and we can have soooo much fun right here (pulling him away to the PRs) let's go have some fun *deviant smile*
Him: Oh come on... if you really liked me you'd just give me your number!
You: (getting slightly serious / pouty - bring out your excuse now) OK look... It's just that I work really hard going to school - I'm a full time student and I pay for everything myself (warming up again) and I really like you, I really want to spend time with you (getting even more seductive and saying close to his ear) Come on baby come play with me *sexy smile*(start leading him back to the rooms)
(* at this point keep slamming him with sexy to get him to forget about OTC and get him enjoying what's ITC)
If he keeps on being insistent you can pull out the "but I just met you" tactic. The best way to pull this off is to insinuate that even though you like him, he's a little strange for asking you to see him OTC when you've just met. It's very logical that if you are as busy as you say you are it's practically impossible for you to make room in your life for someone you barely know. If he's been a regular for a while just say that you still feel like you need to get to know him a little bit better and that you hope he can respect that.
If he keeps on insisting after that you can bust out the "It's really unbecoming to beg" tactic. But, if he keeps on insisting after that you can pretty much write this one off as a lost cause. Make sure he knows that you can't deal with his begging any longer because you need to feel like you are being respected. And when you say "no" that means "no" - you wish you could but you just can't and that he needs to respect that. Any guy who pushes farther than that is being disrespectful and even though it seems harmless, he is basicly shitting on your words - he's telling you that your thoughts and needs mean nothing to him - which I personally see as emotional abuse.
Every guy that walks into the SC wants to get to get to see the girls he likes OTC. Somewhere deep inside of him - even though he may rationally realize that it is impossible - wants to have sex with you. It will ALWAYS be a part of your job to effectively dismiss the OTC attempts while maintaining your image as a fantasy girl. The best way to do it is to employ as many of the above tactics as possible. Good luck :D
Wednesday, July 30, 2008
* Expanding Customer Base: Sexuality vs. Innocence
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When it all boils down to it we make money by giving men what they want and men go to strip clubs for one of three reasons:
1. For erotic entertainment
2. For feminine acceptance
3. For a combination of the first two
Usually they are there for number 3.
As with any two extremes there are infinite shades of gray between them, fluctuating back and forth at any given moment, for nothing in this universe is static. You see this in customers to an extreme: they walk in the door looking for one thing and within 20 minutes they are looking for another! The guy who just wants some female company will walk in and sit down and see a beautiful girl that turns him on and the next thing you know all he wants is to see her pussy - and he will pay handsomely for it! .... And vice versa.
A lot of girls have a shtick that they limit themselves to. Some girls play the seductress all the way and leave innocence at the door. The most common case, however is the girl that doesn't know how to tap into her sexuality. Either way, they are denying one side of the continuum which highly limits their earning potential.
Both of the girls above are like restaurants that serve just cheeseburgers but no French fries (or really really crappy fries). It's great if a guy likes cheeseburgers... but what about the guy that just likes fries... or the one that wants fries with his burger??? Chances are they will go to the competition that DOES offer both.
It's come to my attention that girls make up excuses to justify their lack of diversity which is probably one of the most limiting traps you can get yourself into.
Girls tend to judge girls that are able to perform on the opposite end of the continuum. The girls that are "talkers" look at the girls that are "sexual enticers" and say that they are slutty and the girls that are "sexual enticers" will secretly laugh at the innocence of the "talkers". One will say that the other way is no way of making money... but what they are really doing is turning what should be seen in shades of gray into black and white.
Some girls say that they "can't" perform at the other end of the continuum, that it's not natural for them. Now, this may be true at any given moment in time, but that attitude is negative and limiting in it's own right. You can learn to be more sexual and you can learn to be more talkative. YOU CAN. Learning each of those skills is a blog unto itself though, but just cut the apathy for now. Start to think of ways on your own that you could potentially learn what does not come naturally. Some things DO come naturally to some people, but if everybody just did what came naturally we would still be stuck in the stone age. Some things require effort, but when it comes o he difference you will see in the range of customers that you can acquire, you will understand why it is worth it.
I've heard people say that one type of customer has more money than the other, but that is plain ignorance. The reason they say this is because they've had more success with a guy that is looking for one thing more than another. Every guy has the potential to spend an equal amount of money as long as you know how to get it off of him! You can potentially get him to spend even more if you are able to expand his interests in you. Like let's say that he comes in to see pussy... you can play that up for him, and then persuade him to sit down and talk for a bit - therefore extending the amount of time and money he spends on you. If he comes in to talk you can do that for a bit and then get him worked up and get him to tip you for some erotic entertainment. This all takes a bit of skills, which i will outline in another blog, but for now just know that the more a customer can do with you, the more money you can get him to spend by extending the amount of time he spends with you.
There is a reason that Wal-Mart, Mc Donalds, and other large corporations have made soooo much money - it's because they are able to market to the largest customer base possible for their product while maintaining a unique identity. I insist that you can do this as a stripper and this will not be the last blog that talks about this principle, for this is one of the best things you can do for your business: Expand your customer base - Don't limit yourself to a niche market.
When it all boils down to it we make money by giving men what they want and men go to strip clubs for one of three reasons:
1. For erotic entertainment
2. For feminine acceptance
3. For a combination of the first two
Usually they are there for number 3.
As with any two extremes there are infinite shades of gray between them, fluctuating back and forth at any given moment, for nothing in this universe is static. You see this in customers to an extreme: they walk in the door looking for one thing and within 20 minutes they are looking for another! The guy who just wants some female company will walk in and sit down and see a beautiful girl that turns him on and the next thing you know all he wants is to see her pussy - and he will pay handsomely for it! .... And vice versa.
A lot of girls have a shtick that they limit themselves to. Some girls play the seductress all the way and leave innocence at the door. The most common case, however is the girl that doesn't know how to tap into her sexuality. Either way, they are denying one side of the continuum which highly limits their earning potential.
Both of the girls above are like restaurants that serve just cheeseburgers but no French fries (or really really crappy fries). It's great if a guy likes cheeseburgers... but what about the guy that just likes fries... or the one that wants fries with his burger??? Chances are they will go to the competition that DOES offer both.
It's come to my attention that girls make up excuses to justify their lack of diversity which is probably one of the most limiting traps you can get yourself into.
Girls tend to judge girls that are able to perform on the opposite end of the continuum. The girls that are "talkers" look at the girls that are "sexual enticers" and say that they are slutty and the girls that are "sexual enticers" will secretly laugh at the innocence of the "talkers". One will say that the other way is no way of making money... but what they are really doing is turning what should be seen in shades of gray into black and white.
Some girls say that they "can't" perform at the other end of the continuum, that it's not natural for them. Now, this may be true at any given moment in time, but that attitude is negative and limiting in it's own right. You can learn to be more sexual and you can learn to be more talkative. YOU CAN. Learning each of those skills is a blog unto itself though, but just cut the apathy for now. Start to think of ways on your own that you could potentially learn what does not come naturally. Some things DO come naturally to some people, but if everybody just did what came naturally we would still be stuck in the stone age. Some things require effort, but when it comes o he difference you will see in the range of customers that you can acquire, you will understand why it is worth it.
I've heard people say that one type of customer has more money than the other, but that is plain ignorance. The reason they say this is because they've had more success with a guy that is looking for one thing more than another. Every guy has the potential to spend an equal amount of money as long as you know how to get it off of him! You can potentially get him to spend even more if you are able to expand his interests in you. Like let's say that he comes in to see pussy... you can play that up for him, and then persuade him to sit down and talk for a bit - therefore extending the amount of time and money he spends on you. If he comes in to talk you can do that for a bit and then get him worked up and get him to tip you for some erotic entertainment. This all takes a bit of skills, which i will outline in another blog, but for now just know that the more a customer can do with you, the more money you can get him to spend by extending the amount of time he spends with you.
There is a reason that Wal-Mart, Mc Donalds, and other large corporations have made soooo much money - it's because they are able to market to the largest customer base possible for their product while maintaining a unique identity. I insist that you can do this as a stripper and this will not be the last blog that talks about this principle, for this is one of the best things you can do for your business: Expand your customer base - Don't limit yourself to a niche market.
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